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Re:Some mistakes I made as a new manager by matwood on Monday April 24, 2023 @07:36AM (#35686326)
> I worked for a guy who must have read a book that told him to ask for feedback, but he was so rigid that he would vehemently defend against any feedback he was given

One of the hardest parts of getting feedback is simply listening. Everyone's nature is to defend. When I get feedback I nod, listen, and try to never sound defensive - even if the feedback feels wrong at the time.

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Re:Some mistakes I made as a new manager by papito on Monday April 24, 2023 @07:39AM (#35686352)
This translates to other areas.

I am working on a new product, my idea and implementation from start to finish.

Yesterday I asked my spouse to use it and tell me what she thought. Anything she had an issue with, I was like a crab - just claw claw claw. One has to resist the impulse.

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Re:Some mistakes I made as a new manager by steveBK123 on Monday April 24, 2023 @08:46AM (#35686978)
Yes it translates EVERYWHERE, and it's a strong urge to fight.
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Re:Some mistakes I made as a new manager by matwood on Monday April 24, 2023 @08:49AM (#35687013)
> One has to resist the impulse.

One of the best ways I have found to resist the impulse is to own all feedback. If your wife has an issue with something it's either a real issue or you failed to communicate it properly or it's a combination. My wife and I have a relationship where I explain something and she has issues forcing me to rework communication, the something, or a bit of both. Ends up being very helpful.

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