I am not bisexual, but tried to be. The choice wasn't available.
Have you felt strong attraction for both sexes? If not, have you tried to?
If you tried to feel attraction but could not, you might need help on understanding what attraction is. Until you do, you won't know what love and harm is.
You feel attraction for both sexes, but choose to ignore one?
You choose to behave.
I don't believe for a second any person has this immutable orientation, straight or gay. And likewise, I don't believe it is inhumane for a person to avoid a relationship that is illegitimate. Trying to argue otherwise is like arguing the color blue can also be seen as red.