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Re:You'd Be Happier Living Closer to Friends. Why Don't You? by nicbou on Tuesday April 18, 2023 @07:47AM (#35612706)
If you think that meeting someone over drinks is equivalent to exchanging a few comments asynchronously, one of us is blissfully unware that they're missing out.

Café culture simply means that you have a convenient place to meet with other people with some regularity. You really don't need to be judgemental and dismissive about it.

Re:You'd Be Happier Living Closer to Friends. Why Don't You? by mantas on Tuesday April 18, 2023 @09:27AM (#35613704)
I see two faces of it. One is meeting local people as in building local community and fulfilling socialising bar for yourself. Another is collaborating on ideas long-term. Those are very different.

For me the most valuable part is the later. And interwebs do wonders in this space. Same conversions IRL may have been nicer, but there's no way I could have been part of them (or at least so many of them) otherwise. And if you're in a crowded cafe watching a famous person... It's not 1-on-1 conversation either, much closer to Reddit's AmA thread...

As for building local community... IMO Cafes are too restrictive. A decent community space wins all day any day.

Re:You'd Be Happier Living Closer to Friends. Why Don't You? by nicbou on Tuesday April 18, 2023 @12:20PM (#35616065)
I'm saying that most of Europe has access to such spaces, and that they serve an important purpose. It's a good place for loosely planned social encounters. Whether or not you personally like them is irrelevant.

> And if you're in a crowded cafe watching a famous person

You can go to another café

Re:You'd Be Happier Living Closer to Friends. Why Don't You? by mantas on Tuesday April 18, 2023 @03:17PM (#35618665)
Born, raised and living in Europe, it seems to me to be a myth of days long gone. I love the idea in theory. But I just don’t see it playing out in real life. They do play a role. But I do see similar, if not better, scenarios happening in different settings.

Another cafe wouldn’t have that famous person though. Which is fine. Just saying that many real life interactions ain’t deep 1-on-1 conversations.