You're not uncool. Making friends as an adult is just hard

Re:You're not uncool. Making friends as an adult is just hard by GourSE on Tuesday April 18, 2023 @07:35AM (#35612600)

> There's this phenomenon called homohysteria, which is the fear of being perceived as gay that I think really, really is destructive for men's friendships

This is so true, some people even speak that out, something like "They're so close they're so gay," but the truth is this makes people afraid to connect with a dude. it is not like gays are bad, but when you're not gay, you wouldn't want others to assume that you are.

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Re:You're not uncool. Making friends as an adult is just hard by ravenstine on Tuesday April 18, 2023 @10:18AM (#35614361)

I don't think this fear is entirely unjustified.

Some people have remarked about whether a good friend of mine and I are gay because we hang out 1-on-1 a lot. This is in California, BTW, where one might believe the current politics would discourage people from making assumptions.

It's a good thing it doesn't upset me, given I don't think there's anything wrong with being gay.

What does bother me, though, is how easily people will sexualize adult male friendships. Women are allowed to have close female friends and interact with them in ways where, if guys did the same, someone might think "bro, u homo?"

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