You're not uncool. Making friends as an adult is just hard

Re:You're not uncool. Making friends as an adult is just hard by akvadrako on Tuesday April 18, 2023 @05:36AM (#35611812)

This is a weird persective for me, who mostly hangs out in groups. I've never thought about having to impress each individual member of the group at once or that I should be brusque; I dont even know what that means. And we have plenty of inside jokes and weird humor.

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Re:You're not uncool. Making friends as an adult is just hard by yakshemash on Tuesday April 18, 2023 @09:17AM (#35613574)

I am firmly in GP's camp, but I think this difference has more to do with introverted vs extroverted personality types than weird vs. not weird perspectives. Some people find it hard to express themselves in group environment because group environments tend to be highly competitive for 'air time', at which introverts are at a great disadvantage.

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Re:You're not uncool. Making friends as an adult is just hard by akvadrako on Tuesday April 18, 2023 @03:03PM (#35618433)

I don't agree. I'm pretty introverted and that's one reason group environments are better. You can talk less and take a break from even paying attention more easily than 1-on-1.

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Re:You're not uncool. Making friends as an adult is just hard by lannisterstark on Tuesday April 18, 2023 @06:37PM (#35621404)

>And we have plenty of inside jokes and weird humor.

You've never had a person or two in the group that was sensitive?

>I've never thought about having to impress each individual member

It's not about 'impressing everyone.' It's more about being conscious that everyone may be listening to your comments and/or judging you. This gets worse the more anxious person you are, and/or if you were an introvert.

I don't think it's a great idea to tell those people to 'get over it' either as we used to in the 80s.

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