A lot of gas cars do this too. With services like onstar and low rate data connections either via satellite or even lte etc.

Many modern cars are this way. Tesla is just egregious about it. Ford, Toyota etc can still do it.

Remember the remote start payment plan for Toyota?

https://www.thedrive.com/news/43329/toyota-made-its-key-fob-...

Or even the reports of hacking a cars canbus?

https://www.dmv.com/blog/can-your-car-be-remotely-hacked-523...

All that said though. I totally agree. I will never drive a car like this or one that tells me I need to update before I can drive.

And if I do get a computer car (at least one like a Tesla that runs something resembling a Linux or bsd kernel, then I would expect to be able to access that system just like the engine etc). It’s my property.