Using eminent domain to run utilities is a quintessential use case for eminent domain. The owner doesn't necessarily need to be forced to sell the land, they could be forced to grant an easement instead. A utility easement is something almost every land-owning American has to deal with.

An easement that forever stops me from planting a tree or building a building is not simple ROW. It is a takeover of my property.

It's not exclusively your property, because it derives a large portion of its value from existing as part of a community.

A community that requires many shared goods: water, power, transit, sewage, waste disposal, etc.

Each of which require sacrifices to be made by all so that they can functionally exist.

Absolute ownership = no shared infrastructure can be constructed = everyone's land is worth less

They require sacrifices to be made by those who preserved land. I realize that we cannot have absolute ownership. What I see in practice is that farms and open spaces are run over roughshod. Road planners try to avoid tearing through businesses and neighborhoods while gleefully destroying a century old farm. It isnt a shared infrastructure or sacrifice and you know it.

If you've got a bone to pick with planners, then you're drawing the wrong distinction.

They don't care about rural/farm vs urban/business.

They care about tax revenue and voters.

It's always going to be an uphill battle making the argument that $ tax revenue / acre farmland is more important than $$$ tax revenue / acre sub/urban use. And due to density that farmland represents one family of voters vs the >1 an equivalent urban footprint would impact.