* legalize abortion? yes or no
* go to war? yes or no
* arm teachers? yes or no
* corporate news outlet allowed to sell ad time to corporations they report on? yes or no
* nondemocratically run businesseses allowed to function as a news outlet? yes or no
More democracy, not less.
What is the "collective democratic process" you are advocating for?
Isn't this very uncommon, in addition to the need to be at least somewhat compassionate (e.g. in regards to issues that might not affect individuals personally, but that affect minorities, or simply those who are different)? A certain social cooling might be needed in many societies, less extremism, less identity politics, less hate.
I don't think we live in such a world, yet.
Who's "we"? Not everyone lives in your country.
If you're talking about the US, that's definitely a low-trust society.
No. The government should provide consequences for those who violate trust promoting the idea that I can trust someone else who is from the same society I am.
Here is a game that shows what happens at a societal level when doctors lie or mechanics over charge: https://ncase.me/trust/
In the game of prisoners dilemma, society itself must ensure that defection is a losing strategy. This idea has a name: rule of law.