Re:Carl Braun on Communicating Like a Grown-Up (2016)
by dgb23 on Wednesday March 29, 2023 @07:21PM
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Thank you for this inspiration!
Talking about our limitations is extremely important. Ignoring them can lead to very bad outcomes.
I think we should do this more.
Re:Carl Braun on Communicating Like a Grown-Up (2016)
by xyzelement on Wednesday March 29, 2023 @11:02PM
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This is huge. I often mentor mid-career folks by saying "you got here by being the guy/gal who knows the answers. From here on out, you can only grow by figuring out how to succeed when you don't know."
The following is the opening quote from Ray Dalio's book and it's what sold me on working for him:
“Before I begin telling you what I think, I want to establish that I’m a “dumb shit” who doesn’t know much relative to what I need to know. Whatever success I’ve had in life has had more to do with my knowing how to deal with my not knowing than anything I know.”
Growing up, all my self worth was tied to knowing everything. Several years ago I decided to work on that by publicly admitting to not knowing something every day for a month.
It turned out to be one of the best personal growth exercises I've done and led to a lot of professional success. It's actually quite emotionally freeing.
It also turns out that many of the people whose feathers get ruffled if they think their spot in the intellectual pecking order is being threatened will bend over backwards to help you if approached as a mentor. They don't think you're an idiot for asking, they generally love helping (assuming you are actually competent and not asking about basic shit every day).