If you do want something from the AUR, are customizing one of the official packages, or are trying your hand at packaging something else, editing PKGBUILD files and using makepkg manually is pretty straight forward once you've done it once or twice.
The community is very helpful and responsive...on the forums, mailing list, and on IRC. Feel free to stop by if you ever want to give it another shot and get stuck.
#> vim /etc/pacman.conf [archlinuxfr] Server = http://repo.archlinux.fr/$arch #> pacman -Sy yaourt
If you don't like the way Ubuntu went, go with Debian (sid if you like the warm feeling of having the newest stuff).
I can do this with Arch Linux. I can't imagine what you could've had so much trouble with.
That said, I won't argue that it's still a good bit more work than setting up other distros.
And that's when I realized that while it's fun to tweak and fiddle, I have real work to do and doing things like fighting with a package manager and installing drivers is not very high on my to-do list. I ended up rolling back to 11.04, which I'll probably stick with for some time.