This is also my experience. My wife just delegates loading to me, I'm less stressed looking at the partially loaded dish washer and we're both happier.

Sometimes we cite from [0] to each other and laugh...

[0] https://youtu.be/29JPnJSmDs0

Hey, heads up - you should probably look into that speaker a bit more. I'm not disregarding everything, obviously there's some truth to what he's talking about - but he's got a very warped view on marriage, relationships and women in general.

I won't link anything, but I'll let you look it up yourself.

I think a lot of what that video latches on to is typically how our generation, and the generations before us have treated "dealing with problems". I think you'll find younger people will look at this video and go, "what the fuck".

Wiser words unlikely to be said. My wife wants the utensils up, they are up. I’m trainable and willingly adaptable.

Ironically, I recently got into a merge sort discussion with her regarding how to load utensils. Sorting on load reduced unload time, she got it but didn’t care for the detour in time complexity. She just gave me a snide look at that part.

> a merge sort

We use a bucket sort. My wife grudgingly conceded it was faster and doesn't hate doing the dishes as much as she used to (but I still do them most frequently).

Argh - I don’t think mine is ready for another sorting discussion but I’ll consider this for my future solo loading exercises!

Ugh, the resistance to such a simple and useful thing drives me nuts. I’ve also used the soap dispenser as an indicator, but I can’t get my wife to do the same or pay attention to the signal when it’s set. Moreover, she half pre-washes everything so I often can’t tell whether they’ve been fully washed or not.