This isn't a uniquely Dutch problem. The longest commute you mentioned:
Utrecht -> Eindhoven: 1 hr 4 min (92.2 km)
isn't unheard of in the US. These are the commutes for a cousin, and a friend's uncle:
Colorado Springs, CO -> Denver, CO: 1 hr 19 min (113.5 km)
New Britain, CT -> New York, NY: 2 hr 4 min (177.1 km)
These are memorable though because they are so long. Many of the people I know have far shorter commutes. For example, my mom would drive 30 min (21km). But, these long commutes definitely exist.
In 2019, 10% of US workers had a 1-way commute of over 1hr. (The average times for transit are quite high in the US, but 90% of commutes are by car so a large portion of that 10% are by car).
https://www.census.gov/content/dam/Census/library/publicatio...
In 2003, 8% of 1-way commutes were over 56 km.
The Northeast US is also an outlier because they have commuter rail that can reliably connect places like DC to Baltimore or NYC to Philly.
There are many small towns in Europe surrounded by networks of even smaller towns and one or two house farms. There is nothing to claim back there: they've been like that since well before any European moved to the Americas. That was a way to be close to fields, when economy was mostly farmers and herders and people mostly walked or at best moved in animal powered carts.
Some people move from there to big cities now, some people move from big cities to there. Everybody has a car, it can't be helped. I think that people in big cities will end up with public transport and few cars, but people in small towns and in the fields or in the hills or mountains will keep having a car, maybe just use it less if it costs too much.