Men Without Full-Time Jobs Are 33% More Likely to Divorce

Re:Men Without Full-Time Jobs Are 33% More Likely to Divorce by pcthrowaway on Monday March 06, 2023 @03:27PM (#35047094)

> This is a result of their own sky-high standards and unwillingness to date/marry down. The same is not true for a man.

That's a very reductive take.

While I'm sure this is sometimes the case, is it inconceivable that it's also hard for women to fulfill their socially prescribed womanly duties while also being a high performer in their careers, and they have to choose between picking from a limited dating pool of partners who don't have traditional expectations, or a relationship which becomes punctuated by conflict over their unwillingness to take on duties expected of them?

Whereas a traditional relationship is centered around men as the primary (or sole) breadwinner, and the family structures revolve around catering to their domestic needs while they make the domestic/familial/social sacrifices in order to climb the career ladder, so (while I'm not denying it's also a frequent source of conflict) it's easier for high-achieving men to find partners who will accept the status quo and take on supporting roles

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Re:Men Without Full-Time Jobs Are 33% More Likely to Divorce by nebulousthree on Tuesday March 07, 2023 @10:58AM (#35056810)

You seem to misunderstand what is meant by "dating down" and the refusal of women to do so. It's not a problem of philosophical compatibility and non traditional roles.

If I like fast cars and I'll I've ever been exposed to is your average beater, then it wouldn't take that much to excite me. A sporty commuter might even do it.

But if I've been consistently exposed to supercars, or if I even own one myself, then it will take a much more impressive vehicle to excite me.

Fundamentally, I'm still attracted to the same thing regardless of my situation: fast cars..but one scenario leaves me wanting a lot more than the other.

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