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Re:Ask HN: How did you rebuild yourself after having hit roc... by tharkun__ on Saturday March 04, 2023 @03:36PM (#35024277)
I can see how the corset of tradition, social pressure and law can make marriage "more durable" of course. If you're facing eternal damnation and being ousted from the only social circle you know unless you marry before ever having sex and everyone around you does the exact same thing then of course many if not most people will endure all but the very worst marriages.

I'm glad this is finally past us in at least some places in the world. Unfortunately not everywhere. Not even in Canada or the US and other such countries.

I think the 50+% divorce rate in itself isn't the bad thing. It's not the root cause. It's just a statistic that shows how unhappy a lot of marriages have always been. But until recently-ish (and still in some places) people couldn't get out of it and endured it all and you can't tell me that they were better off that way.

You can treat "it" as a life-long treatment without all the pressures and the paper and all the other stuff.

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Re:Ask HN: How did you rebuild yourself after having hit roc... by dash2 on Sunday March 05, 2023 @05:55PM (#35035108)
What's the fertility rate in these awesome modern societies?
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Re:Ask HN: How did you rebuild yourself after having hit roc... by tharkun__ on Sunday March 05, 2023 @07:43PM (#35036051)
At planet sustaining levels and way below the rabbit kind of fertility that we still see in places where women have no rights and are forced into marriages and prevented from access to higher education.
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Re:Ask HN: How did you rebuild yourself after having hit roc... by starkd on Monday March 06, 2023 @01:04PM (#35044876)
Its not just the "corset of tradition" or social pressure. I mean rituals themselves have a psychological value. Kind of like how membership in an organization is made more durable by initiation ceremonies. Without those ceremonies, members tend to float away because they percieve less value in belonging.
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