Sorry you went through this as that sounds like some terrible teenage years. You should of been having the time of your life at that age. When I was 17 I was screwing around more than anything else and basically having a blast 24/7. Was a mediocre C student at best, but ended up jumping through the right hoops after HS and got all but 4 classes of a CS Master's at a well known Upstate NY university completely paid for. This is not meant to brag, but just wanted to bring up that even a total idiot kid like me did well.

I've seen it again and again. Parents and communities pushing on their kid's academics and sports lives to no ends. I was lucky to have well grounded parents that mostly just let me be a kid and figure things out for myself. Unfortunately I don't see this strategy getting bigger any time soon.