Re:Screw motivation, what you need is discipline
by ethanbond on Tuesday February 07, 2023 @10:12AM
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Yeah, if you don’t actually want the habit in question then definitely don’t bother.
What purpose do you think getting mad at yourself serves?
Re:Screw motivation, what you need is discipline
by dec0dedab0de on Tuesday February 07, 2023 @11:05AM
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I wish I could build good habits, and getting mad serves no purpose, but it happens. Seeing other people have morning rituals, and mowing their lawn on a schedule, and whatnot seems like a magic trick. I only commented because starting small doesn't make it seem any easier to me, though I do understand that it might help someone else.
And by “start small” I mean “floss one tooth per night for 3 months to build a flossing habit” small...
The idea of doing something every day in a row for 3 months causes me pain and revulsion. If I think about it a bit longer, I I know I would get mad at myself for missing a day, and would get really mad at myself for forgetting for 2 years, and I'm already jumping the gun at trying to avoid setting myself up for failure. I floss my teeth when they feel dirty, anything else seems unsustainable. But maybe that's why I don't have motivation or discipline.