I'm asking sincerely. I don't know anyone who would ever express such a sentiment. It comes across as odd, and even suspicious, to me. Do you hope to increase your chances of finding a like-minded woman there?
It is hard to interpret your question as sincere when you imply that people want diversity so they can pick up women.
It is far more logical to me now that I understand that you prefer to be among people like yourself, not so much that you want to maximise diversity for diversity's sake. I echo that and appreciate the candor.
On the first count (culpability) I personally don't think that's the case for FOSS communities, i.e. there is no glaring reason to single them out - if anything they tend to be more open minded and collaborative, at least on average.
It is the second point that is the useful direction, whether there is any opportunity to change the picture, not because "we have to meet some quota" but where it might actually enrich the community and make its output (FOSS software) more impactful.
Good for you but you paint a target on your back saying this. Many people - and, increasingly, businesses, industries, and even states - do demand this. In their eyes, the burden is on you to proactively "fix" the "problem".
Please capitalise "White". Surely we've earned it!
If you went along and had a terrible experience as a guest (for example being the only woman in a room with a hundred men, 95% of whom are fine, but 5% of whom are creepy, meaning that you get to spend the session dealing with 5 creepy men), would you want to submit a talk, with the goal of getting up on stage and bringing even more attention to yourself?
Lack of diversity is a self-perpetuating cycle - I get it, you aren’t going out of your way to intentionally make things worse, and that’s great! But it is perpetuating itself at this point, and it’s going to require intentional effort to stop it. That effort can either come from the minorities, going out of their way to fight an uphill struggle to insert themselves into an event that doesn’t want them, or it can come from the organisers, going out of their way to be welcoming to groups who are currently pushed away by the status quo.
Oh, by the way, I have no way of knowing whether someone is gay, trans, disabled or whatever because all I see is a 1-2 paragraph bio and a 2-3 paragraph proposal and title. Stop blaming yourself for being a white man.