Hate has many forms and styles. Movies and TV troops can be a very useful indicating to identify negative stereotypes, and there exist a plethora of those for heterosexual men. Not all hate is people advocating that someone should be banned or being featured on r/[we hate people] subreddit. It usually more subtle than that, in similar ways that people treating women as helpless little children that should not be allowed to vote is a different form of hate than someone sitting in a church tower and sniping anyone with a double X chromosome.