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Re:Ask HN: Employers, why do you want us back in the office? by dmitriid on Sunday February 05, 2023 @04:09PM (#34669426)
> Once working, you spend 8h a day with a group of people.

Until they, or you:

- quit and move to another company in 2-3 years

- move to another department in the company

- get fired

Then what?

Re:Ask HN: Employers, why do you want us back in the office? by mgraf1 on Sunday February 05, 2023 @04:33PM (#34669690)
Then you keep in touch with them.

The best friend I've made as an adult was met through work. Then he took another job, and I moved across the country when I went remote. We still keep in touch and occasionally travel to visit each other.

Re:Ask HN: Employers, why do you want us back in the office? by projectazorian on Sunday February 05, 2023 @05:26PM (#34670337)
Most work “friendships” are transactional. Always exceptions of course, like in your case, but it’s important to be clear eyed going in.

A lot of people in my life have had their feelings hurt when their “work friend” stopped talking to them after leaving the company, because they failed to understand this important truth.

Re:Ask HN: Employers, why do you want us back in the office? by watwut on Sunday February 05, 2023 @06:02PM (#34670741)
The kind of person who can't make and keep friends unless they are forced to work in the same office won't. It that person could keeping touch and would pick friends able to keep in touch, they would keep.in touch with whoever they studied with or was in their hometown.

But, we are talking about someone who need coercion to make friends. And they can be nice super ethical person, but there is that skill they don't have.

Re:Ask HN: Employers, why do you want us back in the office? by dmitriid on Monday February 06, 2023 @01:57AM (#34674201)
At any point in life I keep in touch regularly with about 40-50 people.

Most of them are from outside work. Because "but you spend 8 hours with them every day" is not true for most people. I now work with completely different people than I those I worked 3-4-10 years ago. I have friendships significantly longer than that, and I didn't have to work with them side by side all this time.

Re:Ask HN: Employers, why do you want us back in the office? by dmitriid on Monday February 06, 2023 @01:54AM (#34674185)
> Then you keep in touch with them.

But... I no longer "spend 8 hours in the office with them". I spend 8 hours in the office with a completely different set of people.

See? Your friends will inevitably be outside the office life.

Re:Ask HN: Employers, why do you want us back in the office? by rowanajmarshall on Monday February 06, 2023 @03:35AM (#34674829)
If you've become friends, you stay in touch. It's that simple. I've worked in three places since graduating , and I keep in touch with probably a dozen people from those jobs. I've been to their house parties, met their pets, gone on hikes with them, started and introduced them to new hobbies.
Re:Ask HN: Employers, why do you want us back in the office? by kaba0 on Monday February 06, 2023 @03:39AM (#34674871)
I keep in touch with a friend after having only worked together for a year and he even left the country.

You can absolutely make friends at a company, you literally spend half of your awake time there. It is more time then what you spent with your school mates back then.