Re:I want to lose every debate
by capableweb on Tuesday January 31, 2023 @08:20AM
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It would be, but that's not just what the parent said, there is an elaboration in the rest of the comment that it should be more balanced, as they previously was too much on the side of "I'm just thinking of a reply while you're still replying".
Too much on the other side and people will instead feel like they're talking to a wall that doesn't really respond.
As most things in life, balance is where it's at, rather than "Only listen, no speaking" or "No listen, only speaking".
I think that depends on how familiar they are with your perspective. You don't want to think of the interaction as unequal, with you taking the higher perspective of observing both their ideas and yours, appreciating and integrating them, while they only exist in their own point of view, the observed to your observer.
If they understand your perspective but you don't know theirs, it makes sense for them to do most of the talking. But if they don't understand where you're coming from, then a one-sided conversation is one-sided in a bad way. It's like looking at them through a telescope. You'll have your reactions to their ideas, but you won't have their reactions to yours, their reactions to your reactions.