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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by ImaCake on Monday January 30, 2023 @11:24PM (#34591062)
>Effort is generally a pretty good proxy for respect

My example above says otherwise.

>can you explain what is a respectful attempt?

One done in good faith. Which is a slippery and vague concept. The ambiguity would explain the state of this comment section.

>taking a class and offering help to attractive girls isn't inherently disrespectful

I, and others, would consider the crucial point here to be "taking the class" because there will be attactive girls there, to be the disrespectful part. It also matters that this is being done on a mass scale, so that many suitors are disrupting the studies of many students at the same time.

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by ZephyrBlu on Monday January 30, 2023 @11:28PM (#34591110)
Generally.

If men have to pursue women in "good faith" and not purposefully try to position themselves then I have news for you, 99% of men are 'disrespectful'.

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by wilsonnb3 on Monday January 30, 2023 @11:47PM (#34591273)
> I have news for you, 99% of men are 'disrespectful'.

I don't think this will be news to most women

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by ImaCake on Monday January 30, 2023 @11:50PM (#34591298)
This isn't exclusive to straight men. I know plenty of people who have pursued relationships in good faith.

EDIT: please cite a source for "99% of".

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by notpachet on Tuesday January 31, 2023 @09:32AM (#34595429)
> If men have to pursue women in "good faith" and not purposefully try to position themselves then I have news for you, 99% of men are 'disrespectful'.

Bing bing bing! We have a winner!

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by sinity on Wednesday February 01, 2023 @03:20PM (#34616990)
> Bing bing bing! We have a winner!

Also these who are pursuing are the only ones who have a shot at relationship, pretty much.

So you are advising that _truly respectful_ males should just remove themselves from the gene pool. Great thinking.

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by TheHappyOddish on Sunday February 05, 2023 @06:33PM (#34671030)
> I, and others, would consider the crucial point here to be "taking the class" because there will be attactive girls there, to be the disrespectful part.

Wait until you find out why men go to nightclubs...

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