The language you use is a bit unclear.

Your kid is a nightmare?

Your kid is challenging?

Your relationship with your wife has been wonderful before and after what? The birth?

I am in a challenging marriage. I have young kids. My kids are wonderful. I am trying to work things out with my wife for my children's sake. I would be careful with the language you use to frame the problems in your life. How you describe your problems may influence what you see as the solutions.

Are you sure it's a problem with your child? Maybe it is a problem with you and your relationships?

Anyways, good choice being in therapy. A competent therapist will help you unravel your problems better than some asshole on hn (that's me).

I wish you the very best. Let’s set a timer for ten years and come back to this thread. I am curious what form our journeys will take and hope this is represented the low point of what is to be a great climb up.

Thank you. I'm a gay man & I'm sick of being told that the most fulfilling and meaningful thing I'll ever do in life is have children; which I cannot do nor do I want to.

Really, our planet could do with fewer people. If people want something fulfilling, they should do whatever makes them happy. That's what fulfilment and contentment is.

My wife and I got married later in life, and we do not have kids, nor will we ever have kids.

I don't regret it. I think I would have been a horrible dad. Only now, as I am in my 50s, do I feel like I might become a person who could have been a good dad, if I had known then what I know now.

So, my kids who were never born, and society at large, are probably better off that my wife and I have never had kids.

Hell, given what's happening in the world today, I think maybe my non-existent kids may also be better off never having been born.