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Re:The Cause of Depression Is Probably Not What You Think by takk309 on Thursday January 26, 2023 @02:28PM (#34537399)
I can't agree more on the shared adversity. My three main hobbies are rock climbing, hockey, and cycling. With climbing you have to battle against yourself and your limits. Good partners will support you in those pursuits. Add in the fact that your life is literally in someone else's hands when they belay you, it is a quick path to trust. Add in the down time, as stated above, and you will make true friends. Going on a week long climbing trip with a small group will stack up quality hours fast.

Hockey is different but you still have a team working towards a goal, literally! With a good group of people, good as in nice people, not skilled, you win and lose as a team. Plus the on bench and locker room time means you get to know one another over time.

Cycling is different for me, it is a solo experience and as a result I don't have any friends in that world.

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Re:The Cause of Depression Is Probably Not What You Think by geph2021 on Thursday January 26, 2023 @03:00PM (#34537878) 

   Cycling is different for me, it is a solo experience and as a result I don't have any friends in that world.
I guess it depends where you live, but usually there are cycling clubs or bike stores that have organized group rides. Riding with a group is an incredible way to enjoy longer rides while socializing, and it's safer.

I started cycling and was amazed at how social it was (albeit living in a town with a sizable cycling community). In my youth I was a swimmer, and although there is a lot of shared experience/adversity and friendship on any sports team, there's a lot less socializing that can be done while your head is underwater!

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Re:The Cause of Depression Is Probably Not What You Think by takk309 on Thursday January 26, 2023 @06:56PM (#34540591)
I choose to do it solo, for the most part. I enjoy the solitude. I have been mountain biking more and that has been more group rides.
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Re:The Cause of Depression Is Probably Not What You Think by hirvi74 on Friday January 27, 2023 @12:21AM (#34542796)
> Plus the on bench and locker room time means you get to know one another over time.

It's so lonely being a goalie sometimes. We never get any bench chat except for the short intermissions.

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