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Re:Sexual loneliness: A neglected public health problem? by jbuhbjlnjbn on Thursday January 26, 2023 @12:52PM (#34535561)
>It might be flattering for a minute but after that I'm sure it's a burden not much lighter than the empty inbox.

I guess some things have to be experienced for real understanding. No, this is surely not a burden by any measure, it is a huge privilege.

Re:Sexual loneliness: A neglected public health problem? by evilduck on Thursday January 26, 2023 @02:04PM (#34536976)
Feels like there's a strong analog between tech careers and recruiters and men and women in the online dating scene.

In tech, fending recruiters off with a stick is far less of a burden and stress than being unemployed or permanently underemployed or underpaid in a different field. It's annoying, sure, but it's not going to cause you depression to have so many people showing interest in you, it validates some amount of self-worth. Recruiters also take an approach to recruitment very similarly to men in online dating, treating it as a numbers game and where they don't care about candidate quality before first contact. Blast out interest and feelers indiscriminately to anyone and then evaluate the quality of those who respond and be happy to settle for any commission in the end. Both are broken processes of course, but the power dynamics seem similar.

Re:Sexual loneliness: A neglected public health problem? by jbuhbjlnjbn on Friday January 27, 2023 @07:48AM (#34545398)
Yes. Female dating behavior is skewed and recruiting is skewed in a similar way.

They might actually be related... "Human resources" people are overly female. Maybe they just apply their normal behavior and experience to work?