> lifestyle demands of vegetarians, vegans, non-glutens, non-porks, non-drinkers, anti-smokers, non-problematics, non-outdoorsies, hover-parents, maskers...

> we have encouraged widespread neuroticism and anxiety...

Are they neurotic or are you?

I have friends from many of those lifestyles, while myself, I am a "non-pork". But have never worried about what my friends with different lifestyles. We invite them all and most show up. Vegans may bring their own food. Halal eaters can stick with vegetarian options, if any.

And I never been offended by pork options at my friends' parties. Almost always there are side dishes.

Our parties are very diverse and our friends are very tolerant and curious about different people. We had friends who would get offended by alcohol or non-halal meat but they ended friendship.

You don't need to go crazy for other people's lifestyle. Good friends will stick around, intolerant will leave.