you are full of self pity.

and it is charmless and icky and will ruin any other good social aspects about you, and your sense of self alone too.

I tell you this bluntly because someone on a zoom call two years ago made an off hand comment like that to me, which kept scratching at me for a week till I accepted it as absolutely true, and so I changed.

I truly had never noticed in my tone, which I thought was 'misanthropic/grumpy' but actually read differently to others-- it made a huge difference once I started noticing the whiny aspect to my communication everywhere and just changed it, since that tone did not reflect how I actually felt inside.

My negativity is in purest form anger and contempt lol and the attempt at softening my cosmic-feeling rage made it come out as whiny 'misunderstood' pity party tone, passive-aggressive twist to hating society in a juvenile entitled sense in my case. Glad I finally forced myself to grow out of that.

(Also dignifies my anger rather than warping it to something lesser and lame.)

Better to figure out how you really feel and strategize if/how to express that than let it turn into repressed soul-deadening whiny sour tone.

I know you'll have a million 'you don't even know me!!!' mental rage at this, so be it. Accept this bitter post now so in a year you may be different.

I'm grateful to the asshole who told me, so I'm passing on the favor ¯\_(ツ)_/¯