Re:Loneliness is a measure of self-understanding
by whstl on Wednesday January 18, 2023 @08:36PM
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I can relate. I actually had a friend tell me "if you ever think of killing yourself, get in touch with me" after an acquaintance committed suicide. Well, I did have a depressive episode and got in touch for help, but got radio silence. Soon after the friendship was dead, he lost interest and couldn't hang out. Now I rely on therapy only.
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Re:Loneliness is a measure of self-understanding
by bittercynic on Wednesday January 18, 2023 @09:55PM
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I don't want to excuse your ex-friend's behavior, but I'm afraid a lot of people have no idea how to be of use to a friend who's going through such an episode.
Suggestions to those who don't know what to do:
Can I take you out to lunch? I found a new spot I think you might like.
Want to go to <nearby park> and take a walk?
Want to play catch?
Want to come over for dinner?
I was hung up for a long time because I don't know how to solve any serious personal problems, so I thought I couldn't be of any use. But just being there for someone, inviting them to something nice, and being a good listener can help. And it might be enjoyable for you, too.
Re:Loneliness is a measure of self-understanding
by whstl on Wednesday January 18, 2023 @10:43PM
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Those are great suggestions, and they would have worked wonders for me. Thanks for doing the work of helping others.
In my case I wasn't even that in need of an ear, as I had a therapist on speed dial. I just wanted to see someone, for life to go on. The sudden distance, silence and unmade plans made me feel like a leper.