This is one of the reasons that I go out of my way to compliment people to others. I try not to speak ill of others not matter the cost. I do this because that's how I want to be treated.

If I have (dead)beef with someone, I go to that person to sort it out. Otherwise I speak to their good qualities. A favorite scripture of mine is "love hopes all things", that is 'love sees the best in others, hoping for their best characteristics'.