In addition, I think it's incorrect to conflate being on time with the effort put into being on time. I know people who do not even have a calendar because they can keep every single time commitment in their head, and show up on time to each one. I know other people who spend significant time, effort, and energy on keeping track of their appointments and still sometimes let some fall through the cracks.

Does the person who is nearly effortlessly on time respect people more than the person who puts significant effort into being on time but still ends up late?

I understand judging by outcomes because most effort is invisible, but the map is not the territory.