Yeah I feel you there. There's nothing quite like the feeling when you realize all the support you've assumed was there isn't real. I went through something similar during my divorce. The lack of sympathy (or worse) was stunning. It's hard and sometimes you just need a hug. But yeah a lot of people see it as a burden to support a friend, whereas I've always found it a great honor to be trusted like that, and fortunate to have an opportunity to render assistance to someone who needs it. I've come to realize vanishingly few people feel as I do about aiding friends.