Perhaps you live in a bubble (high income, high education) if you find it completely unbelievable that a quarter of the populace will engage in domestic violence at some point in their lives.

I grew up in rural Appalachia, and I can tell you that the most common response to someone, say, being called a stupid bitch, is not to channel the eternal words of Marcus Aurelius or to center ones self like the Buddha, as might be the case for your average HN poster.

Men are continually trying to paint sexism as symmetric. Doesn't matter that 99% of the corpses that result from domestic violence are women, that 1% means that it's actually a back and forth tennis match. Meanwhile, one of the most common types of mass killings is when men just decide to kill every woman they see.

>Men are continually trying to paint sexism as symmetric

Exactly, considering that in almost every societal metric that matters men do worse than women sexism against men is much worse, nothing symmetric.

You seem to be conflating violence and murder. Yes, mens result in death more often, but data shows women and men are both comitters of domestic violence.

>means using definitions of "violence" and "abuse" very different from ordinary English

Incredible how the same critic is never moved against women when engage in the same kind of Newspeak. Let's remember that "speech as violence" was not invented by men.