Go through the issues in the second section and tell me what Andrew Tate's position was on any of them.
Spoiler alert: you can't. Tate was not an MRA, he was a pickup artist.
Male feminists also tend to find themselves in trouble, by the way. Michael Kimmel used to play the same game of lumping legitimate issues (suicide/education/family courts) in with incels upset they can't get laid. He had to retire after getting #MeToo'd, heh. Tiresome and predictable. Perhaps I should add a Google Alert for your name ;)
And my point isn't that the men's rights people don't have legitimate points about how patriarchy also harms men. They do! My point is that for an awful lot of people, those points are a cloak for a deeply emotional backlash against feminism. So I'm less interested in what they claim motivates them than what we can learn from what they actually spend their time and attention on.
I'd have a hard time denying it because I have no idea what that "sort of person" is even supposed to be. Is it just people you don't like?
I went down the Men's Rights rabbithole because I got sexually assaulted by a woman as a teenager and didn't know how to deal with it. They were the only ones talking about it, and I assure you nobody involved had any interest in relegalizing marital rape.
Rather, that seems to be a bit of DARVO given that feminist thinkers like Mary Koss would see happened to me reduced to "unwanted contact".
> And my point isn't that the men's rights people don't have legitimate points about how patriarchy also harms men.
"Patriarchy hurts men too" is empty handwaving, not a substitute for genuine solutions.
Given your little quip - "think of all the men who haven't been murdered as they slept" - I doubt you'll be interested in providing help for men (or boys, as it was) like myself. If that's the feminist line, then it is clear that feminism, to put it mildly, isn't for me.
I have a hard time believing you can't figure this out on your own, but briefly, the manosphere.
As to the rest, I am truly sorry to hear about your sexual assault. But I'm also sorry that you, like so many of the "sort of person" I'm talking about, have turned a bad experience into a reason to bash feminism rather than a reason to fight things like rape culture. If even with your experience can't figure out why serial rape victims might murder their attackers and why somebody might be surprised that doesn't happen more, then I'm not sure how I can clear up my point for you.
You're talking in circles here - you brought up what "sort of person" are in the manosphere, and your answer is people in the manosphere. Not exactly insightful.
The so-called manosphere is a wildly diverse group with different experiences, complaints, and conclusions. Lumping in Andrew Tate with Men's Rights is just nonsensical.
> bash feminism rather than a reason to fight things like rape culture
I can do both and it's served me very well. When feminists like Koss et al. downplay female abuse of boys, that is rape culture.
> If even with your experience can't figure out why serial rape victims might murder their attackers
This is a schizophrenic strawman. I understand it perfectly and I've said nothing that should lead you to think otherwise.
If you were actually sorry about my experience, you might like to prove it by not making up lies cut from whole cloth about me and men like me. These desperate attempts to paint yourself as One of the Good Ones are transparent.
> What explains this asymmetry?
What explains it is an asymmetrical history: millennia of oppression of women, often violently enforced. E.g., if you read the Iliad, it's basically a who-stole-my-woman story inside a who-stole-my-woman story; at the time, women were pretty close to property with opinions. An easy way to see the through-line to today is the history of "marital rape", where society did not see married women as being able to choose whether or not to have sex with their husbands. That was always the case under English common law, and was not fully outlawed in the US until 1992: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marital_rape#Legal_aspect
We may have removed most of the gross legal infrastructure of patriarchy, but the cultural aspects are still only slowly dissolving. We have generations more work to do there. The reasonableness you mention is exactly what amazes me. Think of all the men who haven't been murdered as the slept.
And I think this history also explains why the Men's Rights movement is so bonkers. A shift toward fairness is a loss for the people who used to benefit from the unfairness. This has left a lot of men upset that they aren't getting what they feel they are due. Some handle that well, but the ones who don't are going to fight to turn the clock back. And as Corey Robin points, out, reactionaries like that often cloak their efforts in the progressive language of the day. So we end up with "men's rights" as a bizzaro-world mirror of women's rights. And one of their heroes, one with 4 million Twitter followers, getting arrested as an abusive sex trafficker and international pimp.