Re:Ask HN: Concepts that clicked only years after you first ...
by jononor on Monday January 02, 2023 @07:14PM
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They might not judge you more in a large city, or be any more interested in you per see - they might just be a little bit more eager to check if you might be dangerous. As in places with many encounters with many people, the risk is higher.
Re:Ask HN: Concepts that clicked only years after you first ...
by WastingMyTime89 on Tuesday January 03, 2023 @09:55AM
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Have you ever come across someone who you thought was dressed or acted strange while riding public transports or walking in the streets? Found one of your fellow traveler extremely attractive? I would assume most of us would answer yes.
Do you remember the face of these persons? I can tell you that I don't.
Nobody really cares about strangers in big cities. They are part of the background. Sometimes you are struck by something then you move along. Even people who might actually be judging you will have forgotten you exist minutes later. That's the beauty of cities.
Re:Ask HN: Concepts that clicked only years after you first ...
by heavyset_go on Tuesday January 03, 2023 @09:26PM
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I find it's the opposite for me. I'm basically anonymous in big cities, whereas smaller cities and towns can be, uh, incestuous when you start getting to know people. They can also be visciously judgmental, but that goes for people anywhere.
I think there are shades of this, which is to say the level of judgement can vary.
I feel that in a smaller city my social anxiety is not as strong as when I’m in a larger city.
In larger cities, I feel much more evaluated and judged ie eyes on me looking at my clothes, checking me out, etc despite being a much more detached and impersonal environment than smaller cities where I just feel ignored. Maybe it’s just more people around putting me more on edge.