Instead, everything has to feel well rehearsed. It is exhausting to try and emulate. :(
Comedians bomb in small clubs so they shine on the big stage. Writers like me publish blog posts and articles so the ideas that make it into books are battle tested. The podcast episode that goes viral is usually the 10th+ time that podcaster has said the same thing in slight variations.
TV and radio hosts keep saying the same things and having similar conversations over and over daily for decades.
Note, edited and redone is fine. Rehearsed is also fine. I just don't think all things should have to be. Which is why I say I wish it were more allowed.
It’s just super unlikely that any of us will get to see the early versions. When something is repeated hundreds of times, being there for the first one is pretty rare.
Especially when you consider that the versions that didn’t work get killed quickly whereas the things that worked get repeated lots.
And then there are plays and such. I ridiculed power rangers back in my adolescence, but I have grown to appreciate the unpolished nature. And I think I miss it.
At the same time though, I do find myself often times at work qualifying things with "I think" or similar phrasing, and I'm still not sure if I do it to avoid embarrassment or if it's to not come off as too arrogant. Maybe it's both.
You need to know the conversational minefield very well.
The rest of us pick up on this and sense the plastic shell. Worse, by never risking, they never excel in the way they could.
The best way to manage that is to show people in private before you publish. That can be as simple as having a friend or partner check your spelling. Or it can be as complex as getting several people to sense-check your ideas and give you robust feedback.
The other big issue is that people can (deliberately?) misinterpret what you've written. Humans don't write in a formal, logical manner. So everything you write is open to a bad-faith actor trying to undermine you. So you have to make peace with the fact that you're not writing a thesis to be examined and that some people are just arseholes.
Life's too short to spend it worrying about what might go wrong. Take some sensible precautions and learn to live with the occasional public goof.