Re:Ask HN: Wanting to grow – what questions should you ask y...
by codethief on Thursday December 29, 2022 @11:38AM
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> What do you hate most about your job? [Can you] identify a job that you would like better?
This reminds me of https://markmanson.net/question :
> What pain do you want in your life? […] What is the pain that you want to sustain?
Re:Ask HN: Wanting to grow – what questions should you ask y...
by badrabbit on Thursday December 29, 2022 @12:04PM
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What was intense about mental health training if you don't mind my asking? I know nothing about it.
Re:Ask HN: Wanting to grow – what questions should you ask y...
by jderiksen on Thursday December 29, 2022 @02:29PM
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In my particular situation it involved hours of group and face-to-face interactions. I am quite introverted so this proved to be exhausting and unsustainable. I imagine that it is possible to find programs that don't have this style of training but at the time I needed the money so returned to software engineering.
Re:Ask HN: Wanting to grow – what questions should you ask y...
by badrabbit on Thursday December 29, 2022 @09:09PM
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Thanks for answering. There goes one field I could never get into either.
Re:Ask HN: Wanting to grow – what questions should you ask y...
by maligree on Friday December 30, 2022 @06:22AM
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Hey, thanks for your input! These are good questions.
Funny thing. A few months ago I've also decided to improve my communication skills - both in reading and writing. (Long way to go...) It did hit me that whatever I end up doing in the long run, communication is the only 100%-reusable skill that can pay off anywhere. And so much time is wasted due to sub-optimal communication.
Re:Ask HN: Wanting to grow – what questions should you ask y...
by jderiksen on Wednesday January 04, 2023 @11:57AM
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> It did hit me that whatever I end up doing in the long run, communication is the only 100%-reusable skill that can pay off anywhere. And so much time is wasted due to sub-optimal communication.
Fully agree on both points!
It also has helped tremendously to put significant effort into learning how to communicate effectively (reading books, attending workshops, etc.), focusing significant energy into learning project management and people skills even if I don't want to be a manager, and to only take jobs with folks who I feel really respected and valued by. I also realize that I simply can't work a 40 hour week so now I work a 30 hour week even though it means that I am compensated less. I can use those two extra hours per day to exercise, practice music, meditate, take my time eating breakfast and reading, etc.
To turn this into questions that you can ask yourself:
1. What do you hate most about your job? 2. Are you able to articulate these difficulties and challenges to your supervisor and team and really be heard? If not, what can you do to improve your ability to state your needs? 3. Are you willing to leave a job that doesn't satisfy you and are you confident in your abilities to identify a job that you would like better? 4. Are you willing to sacrifice money for improved happiness? 5. Is there something else that you would rather be doing? How can you integrate that into your life to make your life feel balanced?