No, sorry.
Both might be "struggling", but there is a massive difference between "I make $500,000 per year and can't buy a $3M home" and "I make $60,000 per year and can't afford a $300,000 home."
The person making $500,000 per year in another stratosphere of economic wealth that someone who makes $60,000 can't even fathom.
It's like someone who makes $1M per year complaining they can't afford a private jet. Sure, they are experiencing an "impact to their quality of life", but no, it's nowhere close to the same situation, hence they get no sympathy from people who have actual financial difficulties.
I have little sympathy for someone who is in the top 1% of income earners in the US not getting what they want.
You said it yourself:
> the people who work those kinds of jobs want to live in those kinds of places
In other words, rich people get to live where they want. They get to live in the cool places with good schools and nice houses far from the freeways and toxic waste dumps and with lots of interesting things to do. Poor people have to make do with whatever is left over.
Why not? That someone makes much more than someone else and endures a higher cost of living does not establish anything other than that the people who work those kinds of jobs want to live in those kinds of places (or the companies want to be there but it is hard to disentangle the two). Lack of sympathy because someone is in a different situation seems somewhat course considering that there are problems which either party does not experience but are objectively bad and should be remedied. Because they are different does not mean they are less impactful to quality of life.