Source? I know when stuff on my distribution gets recompiled because then I have to download and unpack it, so I notice.
I can assure you that it isn't as you say.
> with FreeBSD
Despite the monorepo thing, I assure you that most FreeBSD users do use software coming from other places as well.
Number of times I have benefited from this process: 0 (AFAIK)
Number of times this process has hosed previously-working applications and components: too many to count
On Windows, this "feature" was called "DLL Hell," and was generally considered a bad thing. Nothing has fundamentally changed since it was a common practice for every installer to have its way with c:\windows, IMHO. (Admittedly shared MSVC runtimes aren't as big a problem as the Winsock-provider-du-jour was, but still... there is simply no point.)
Also there is value in being able to fix a library without having to recompile everything.