My existence hasn't been a burden on anyone. I worked hard to make sure that I put as little stress on my family as I could through everything. I've had surgeries but I'm not disabled. I work and pay taxes and have friends and a husband and participate in a large social circle. Forcing me to live as a gay man with gender dysphoria would have limited the possibilities in my life with no discernible benefit to society. The only joy I found in life before I transitioned fully was in doing drugs and hooking up with guys. I could have maybe settled down with a man while living as a gay man but I doubt it. I didn't have it in me to love anyone because I was so miserable. I could barely function and nearly died from an eating disorder. I hated every masculine thing about my body and with testosterone pumping through me the only way I could do to impact that was starving myself.... In short I wasn't functional and I was physically withering away to the point where pneumonia nearly killed me as a teenager because my body was so weak. So whatever. You can debate the ethics of whether or not society was better off with me being a starving depressed twink versus a trans woman I guess but if you think it's bad for society that I was able to look how I want and start a family and feel happy I think you've got weird ideas about how the world works.