Dying from abuse is horrible of course, but most abused people suffer it and its trauma, live some time longer with its effects, and experience being broken in ways they come to understand by being broken in ways they could cope with until they cannot anymore. Before we even talk about the risk of cops, in domestic abuse scenarios, it’s impossible to talk about any of this meaningfully if we’re using death as the criteria.

Once that’s established though… cops are disproportionately domestic abusers. People who live with cops are disproportionately abused. People who encounter cops are confronted with people who are disproportionately abusive in the privacy of their own home with the benefit of doubt of most of society and almost all legal mechanisms.

Your odds of being abused by cops are much greater than by any other person you meet outside your own community, and those odds increase as your odds of being abused by anyone else do too. And as those odds increase, so too do your odds that an otherwise gentle cop won’t do a thing about anyone else who abuses you. Those odds are correlated to the cop relating more to the abuser than their victim.

I’m more likely to die of heart failure but that doesn’t mean I trust the guy who probably beats his wife and probably won’t shoot me. And as I mentioned in another comment, that distrust goes so far as I will not under any condition allow a cop in my pup’s presence if I have a choice. See, they do actually shoot dogs, a lot.