A few years ago my parents were helping a family of Yazidi refugees in my hometown in germany. This included taking them to doctor appointments and at one such appointment a doctor fitted a contraceptive coil without consent or knowledge to the mother of the familiy... the reason beeing: they already had enough kids. I felt disgusted by this behaviour and the casual way my parents told me of this, but have never shared this with anybody - although I have thought about it often over the years. This paternalistic, "we know better than you" kind of behaviour sickens me and remains a thorn in my side, because I'm complicit.