- Some people don't know it yet. - Some people choose to pretend it hasn't happened. - Some people, like her, wish that it hadn't happened and are peering into the void, struggling to come to terms with it. - And the people she's writing about have realized it has happened and are running toward the singularity.
She feels that our culture is defined by those going the fastest, long before the rest of society catches up to it. But we'll all get there eventually, and the avant garde will be further away from the unaware than ever before.
I don't think she's making an argument about whether we should fall in any particular bucket. She doesn't want to be in the avant garde though. Maybe she's sad about that, because she pictured herself as being an avant garde kind of person.
As cartoonish as it is, I buy that distinction. But usually, when people make it, they're making a plea for the old internet. The writer of this article, however, doesn't seem to be doing that. The milady community feels, "a little bit, like that internet from 1995"; it is unlike social media communities where you are "constantly performing your personality" and "Liking is a personal endorsement." Again, when people make that distinction, they're usually writing against likes, personality, and "iPhone photography of yourself."
So regarding the title: does she not want to be either type of internet person? Or is "normie" social media engagement ok?