I'm sorry for the loss of your brother.
We're already well off the rails of the original post here, but I do want to say that I share your anger at evangelicalism. Their fundamentalism has made the name of Christianity synonymous with hate and corruption in the US. So...you will find company in your anger with us, too.
The bigotry of our evangelical childhood is a big part of why my brother killed himself as a successful adult and father.
I don't need patronizing characterization of my rejection as willful ignorance. I am not ignorant, merely decided. If you wish to continue to follow those dialogs do so, but drop the superiority.