The grumpyness is what I love about him. But in the supercut I watched, he is constantly specifically attacking other men's masculinity in a way which felt super toxic. There's plenty of healthy ways to present a grumpy character but Gilfoyle's behavior with regard to masculinity just sucks.

So why is the latter ok but the former offensive?

(I think neither are offensive btw, I didn't take jian yang as a representative for Chinese people)