Wasting your time and having awkward conversations is table stakes for dating, no? All of that would still be happening if you only ever interacted with cis people!

Are large numbers of cis people really finding that trans people are contributing substantially to their difficulty in finding a suitable partner? I see no evidence of it. This concern is almost always raised in rhetorically heated threads about trans identity, in the service of a particular argument – but almost never in threads about dating.