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Re:The case against the Twitter apology and our culture of p... by tremon on Friday November 18, 2022 @11:27AM (#33657082)
That is, forgiveness is how I see the other when I see them not as an enemy or friend, but as a tragic part of nature.

To me, that's more a part of the reconciliation process than of forgiveness. It doesn't require forgiveness to abandon the other and move on. I rather think that forgiveness is the first step to restore the mutual relationship, it's a willful act to salvage what was broken. I guess in my mind, reconciliation is a prerequisite for forgiveness, but whereas reconciliation is about the self, forgiveness is about the other -- or at least the relationship with the other.

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Re:The case against the Twitter apology and our culture of p... by they4kman on Friday November 18, 2022 @02:21PM (#33660562)
To forgive is to let go of our own disturbances about the situation, and we may choose to never tell the subject of the forgiveness. Whether we wish to continue/rebuild a relationship with the subject doesn't need to depend on whether we are undisturbed.
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