Remember that the pressure is being applied by yourself. Nobody is demanding that you buy a home, work at faang, climb the career ladder, etc, except you. Stop giving yourself a hard time. You wouldn't give others a hard time about their career [or lack of one], would you?

The way I got there is: I was overconfident and good at seeming very talented. I took jobs that didn't require a ton of technical or incredibly hard interviews. I made a crapton of personal projects and taught myself an insane amount by 19 so that I actually knew a good deal more technically and practically than some intermediate positions. And I coasted for about the first 10 years. The next 10 I overworked myself because I thought I needed to, because I didn't want to do the job anymore and figured if I just did it better than anyone else I'd feel better about it. And finally I took jobs where I was literally making the world and people better.

The whole time, I gave myself crap for not getting enough done, and much of the time felt bad for "wasting" my time. Now I realize that I have a ton of life left still and no particular goals in mind, so who cares if it's a waste as long as I can enjoy the waste? And I do (mostly) enjoy my job and my free time now. Just sucks that it took me so long to realize that who I am is fine and doesn't need fixing. Whatever happens is just life and it's OK.