We have an entire subpopulation of primarily men associated with a certain slur which suggests the opposite.
The motivation is important.
It’s similar to the difference of someone being blowing up a building for political reasons and not. The former makes that person a Terrorist. The latter does not.
It’s regularly specifically about blaming women as a whole and having constant contradictions. IE, they put down women who they could date. They are too ugly. Too low in socio-class structure. They don’t want women to be superficial with them, but then they want to be superficial with women.
Another example is the regular shitting on women for sleeping around too much. Insulting women. Casually dropping words like slut or in-group terminology without issue. A woman is bad for sleeping around too much and it’s not good for women to be with many different penises. It messed them up. Yet somehow this logic doesn’t follow when a woman is with the same man having sex daily. They are fine with the latter saying that’s fine. Not the former specifically angry that women are ruining themselves with getting with so much penis.
The number of contradictions are numerous. To simplify it down to they only hate women for not being able to have sex is incorrect. Many in the community hate women because they can’t have have the women they deem they are entitled to. No one is entitled to someone else.
Note: I tried hedging most of the time but to be clear I’m always talking about a majority of the community when looking through the conversations. I never mean every single incel. Just the ones actively engaging in the toxic parts of the community.