I think the issue here is that if you're the type that prefers the latter method then there's no real app for that and I'm not convinced you can have such an experience on an app. Best I can think of is that you provide chat rooms and pressure people into talking one on one. But the in person experience you're describing also highly depends on a lot of non-verbal cues, albeit noisy and easy to misinterpret. These cues don't translate really well in text (and I'm sure that the metaverse isn't going to fix this either).