Given the gross disparity between the number of women having children and the social acceptability of that act vs the number of women working in startups, we can conclude that one of those two claims of "difficulty" is full of shit.
There is no mass epidemic of women excluded from childbirth due to female targetted promotion of startup culture.
No there isn't, but if you'll notice I included startups as just a part of the overall drive.
I'm not picking a side, but I can tell you from experience that many of the women I know, who happen to be stay at home moms, do feel embarrassed about what they do.
And I do believe it's a result of career advocacy. I'm simply pointing out the hypocrisy, in one side telling the other to stop advocating because it causes difficulty for the former, without acknowledging that the former can use the exact same argument.
This seems to be going against your point that you shouldn't be telling people what women want to do.
The author of the original article was making the point that people advocating that women work in startups (or have other professional careers) makes it hard for women like her, who don't want to do so.
In summary, you say that the other side makes it hard "for women who DO want to work at startups". The other side says you make it hard for women who don't.