There are a class of women who have made their politics their image and men want no part in it. Their dating is usually reserved for people of their percieved ingroup, of which men can constitute a vanishingly small part. Unwilling to date outside that group is the biggest issue, with their ingroup signalling to other groups being a secondary hurdle. Hence the recent rise of neo-trad signalling by otherwise non traditional persons (for dating). Its not a new problem, but its current incarnation sure looks weird.
It make sense given the paradox of choice. These days you can endlessly swipe between potential partners, and even if you find someone it is hard to not keep thinking about potential missed opportunities, after all an even better partner could have been just a swipe away. The 21st century is crazy because abundance is not what our brains are specialized for. The goes for food as well.
I can't stand people feeling sorry for themselves though. I'm both unattractive and stupid, so what, keep up selling, and someone eventually will bite.